The Quote -

"Nope, I don't really have anything new to say. but then, I always have something amazing to tell about things that you already know!!"


Monday, December 28, 2009

A perspective war-

Author's note-

A few sketches of random Dialogs often hit us in the face with some fresh perspectives. Sometimes silly, sometimes outrageous, sometimes even unacceptabe but then, don't perspectives make the world what it is?? :)

This post, guys is a conversation I had with my friend a couple of days ago.

The snap--

The dialog-

Pari- "How about you muthu. Will you take any dowry."

Myself- "Nope. I think that dowry in a way degrades the man more than the women. What kind of a man will take money from the women he promises to love and care for."

Pari- "hmhm.... but didn't you say that you want a working girl."

Myself- "Of course, yeah.... I paused for a second.....Why??? Whats wrong with that.. "

Pari- "Well... she going to bring her earnings along with her for life. Isn't that dowry enough."

Myself- "But...... " I paused, my mind scampering for a proper reply and returned back empty handed. I thought aloud. "I have never thought of it that way"

"But then..... " I retaliated. "A marriage is not a buying and a selling issue. You are going to share your life and I wanted a married girl coz I want the girl to be somebody on her own, have a passion of her own, a story of her own."

Pari sighed. "Yeah... yeah... yeah... but then you could not really refuse my argument head on. Could you...."

I replied back. "It's just perspectives my friend. Just perspectives.... "

I had no other reply.


A happy new year guys. I hope that every single one of you have a great year ahead, do what you guys always wanted to do, get everything that you guys always wished for.

& I wanted to see where the Telangana issue is heading before I write about it as a post. Since this issue rises a lot of questions of rather uncomfortable in nature- I felt it would not do justice unless I write a complete trilogy on the subject. My last trilogy which indeed was my first was a self satisfying, in a way self questioning experience. So, I look forward to write this. Do give me some time.

(If you do wanna try out my Trilogy on sex and society :- Do chk out- the links are- part1 , part2 , part 3 )

See you in my next post guys....


Rajlakshmi said...

good post on dowry... ya thats a new perspective though :)
wish you too a wonderful year ahead :)

Preeti said...

Hi muthu ,
Its true some people do ask for wokring women as they take her as life long dowry ...and I agree , its just a perspective .

happy new year to you as well ..

Renu said...

I disagree..working girl is not bringing any dowry unless she hands over all her salary to her inlaws..which they never do..she is working for herself and pitching in the family kitty where boy is bringing the main money to run the house.

Basically we need to clear many misconceptions prevalent..earlier girls were not working and they were going to other family who will spend on them for a life time, so some amount was given as was a thanksgiving from the girl's parents to the boy's parents who were taking off their responsibility for a life the scenario has changed,so everything needs to be cleared.

wishing you a very happy new year !

bondgal_rulz said...

One of my fave statements - "It's all about perception."

Nice post.


muthu said...

@ Rajlakshmi ---

:) My hearty wishes yaar.. :)

and yeah ... life is but a amalgamation of perspectives.. :)

muthu said...

@ Preeti --

Yeah.... Agreed. Some people would rather be comfortable with thinking as womens earning as dowry rather than sighting it as their independence...

Dont you think so.....

muthu said...

@ Renu ---

hmm I think ... Is not about clearing misconceptions... It s about what people feel comfortable with... something that they can relate to ... like a custom of dowry that has been continued so many generations....

Like my reply to preeti....

What do you think....

muthu said...

@ bondgal_rulz ---

yeah.... I remember once reading something like....

Of course people wear hats.. but then it doesn't always look the same... Right???

Renu said...

If somebody wants to enjoy life and still call her martyr, then I feel sorry for them. To beget respect we want, first we must behave and think in proper perspective.

Rahul Jain said...

Same of course, I too want an employed wife, there are two reasons for it. First, Wife can side by side give a hand in economic development of the family. Second, It's quite outdated thinking that wife are only the child bearing macine and are born to look after family.

Happy new year.

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