The Quote -

"Nope, I don't really have anything new to say. but then, I always have something amazing to tell about things that you already know!!"

-Muthu

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Randomness - a few selected dialogues-

Of a random lot of people we get to talk to and of the chaos of conversations in our daily lives, a few do stay with us. Having it's own sense of sense of humor and satire, even a mild bit of romanticism included, this is a summation of a few interesting conversations that I had with the guys I met over here in Hyderabad.



Of girls and future partners-


Deepak - "I want a nice cultured gal. A girl who hasn't been introduced yet to the fast life style of the modern society, preferably a village girl. Perhaps a bit cute and bubbly. Imagine all the fun, I will have taking her to all new places, looking into her eyes when they go wide with awe as she looks at all the new things to which she hasn't been introduced to in life."

"Ahh... It will be a total blast. I want my marriage life to be an exploration for her. May be, I will convert her into a village girl into a modern girl."

He paused. Took a deep breath taking in the bliss of his dream. After a second or two of silent reminiscence, he turned & looked at me.

"What about you? What kind of girl, you want?"

"hmhm, I want a modern girl. Someone who knows about everything. Someone knowledgeable and yeah, She should have a great smile"

"A modern girl" Deepak retorted.

"Yeah, Perhaps someone who has already been in a relationship..."

"What" His voice punched me back.

"Yeah, someone who has already been in a relationship. Someone who knows the value of what it is to be in a relationship. Someone who knows that relationships are more than sharing SMSes and flirting. Someone who can be mature when I get silly, Someone who can see me beyond all the facade of hormones. Someone who knows, what it is to be heartbroken. Someone to share life with."

"But, in that case, you won't be the first love for that girl, Muthu. They wont be fresh for you." Deepak looked at me questioningly.

I calmly answered back - "That's OK. I never said that I am fresh either."



The snap-





Of Morality as a life issue-


Harish- So you drink?

"Yeah, Occasionally & when I do so, I prefer vodka."

Harish did not reply anything back. He just sat there looking at me with a mild smile.

"What da?? Do you think that drinking is that bad?" I asked him.

He shrugged. "Of course, It's bad. Right?"

After a second of silent thought I replied- "Depends on how you look at it..."

"Really, & what do you mean by that?"

"Well, lets say, you are a guy who always has stood for what you think is good. Righteous. Always living your life by the norms of the society. So you get a good job, get married to a good girl, create a good family, leave a good legacy behind. In the end, what do you think you have achieved. You have achieved nothing. You have just followed the road that was taken & still being taken by countless Indians, who live their lives not for what they desire but for what the society desires out of them."

"People will say - Accept today's pain for tomorrow's happiness. That's the most silly piece of advice anybody can give you. You can never enjoy anything that you did not love doing. It's no different from school education, we study because we are told that's what everybody does. A bunch of sheep following another bunch of sheep. So, you work hard to get accepted by the society, what next. After you have achieved, the so called public acceptance, what are you going to do? Is your life that all... Trying to gain the approval of someone doesn't even have a face to be identified with."

"I live life the way I love it. Maybe, it's not in accordance with the morality that's usually defined. But I do not disturb anybody. I just want to live life for me, do things that I rejoice, Be happy for what I am. I wont be appreciated for that after my death. But then by my death, I would have millions of cherished memories. So what people are going to say about me, now or ever- doesn't really matter, Does it??"

"& anyways only when you love what you are doing, the spectacular best in you comes out... Right??" I challenged him with a questioning smile.


"You are dangerous guy da. I should try stay away from you" He replied back.

"Really!!" I laughed. "Why??"

"You almost had me convinced there.."




Of Love & Marriage --


Mukesh- "What about you da... love marriage or arranged marriage."

"Hopefully, Love marriage da." I replied.

"Really, do you have a girl friend now"

"Nope"

"Then...."

"Well, I think, I will fall in love in the near future."

"What if, you never fall in love da"

"That probably wont happen...."

"I only asked, what if??"

"Then probably, I wont marry...."

"What?? Really" He asked me incredulously.

"yeah, a marriage for the sake of marriage is a waste of everything da.."

After a second of thought, he asked me back-

"Then what about your sex life da??"

And for once I did not have a wise retort to answer him back. I looked at him blankly for a moment before changing the topic with a mild joke. But then, It did make me wonder- Do people really get married so that they can have legalised sex.



Author's note-


This post is not an attempt to criticize anyone's point of view but I wrote it, so as to bring the variety of opinions that people can have with regard to everything and anything in life.

25 comments:

oRange* said...

BANG ON! u've touched the exact points! guys are actually like that when it comes to marrying u know ..its always "i date 'bad' girls but i want to marry a 'good' girl" :S
its like, after they get married, they'll stay in separate countries or something! talk about tags! tags are given undue importance, seriously!

and yes, the sex part of it ..
im sure a majority of people think that way. marriage is like a license to have sex.

venus66 said...

I like these post very much.Really make sense.
Let me say something,Marriage is not a license to have legalized sex. Marriage can even be beautiful without sex.Do not get offended. This is my point of view.

venus66 said...

Happy Diwali to you and loved ones. Take care.

Renu said...

A good take on many issues...

Today the type of girls I see..the hippocrate modern ones..I think your friend is intelligent.

Drinking is a very personal choice and was looked down upon because...
it is expensive so deranges the budget.
if you take too much health is spoiled.
and too much of it removes your control over yourself...

so you see ..what is bad is not drinking but exceeding the limit and thats why it got branded as a bad habit....as long as nobody gets hurt by your indulgence..its your choice.

For the last one..each to his own..sometimes people get lasting love in arranged marriages also, but yes one looses certain charm of marrying in love .

Inty swetha said...

Muthu you rock man!! i loved all the conversations.. and the 1st one is very good! you are very clear in what you want !! thats a good sign to have a happy life :)

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Swetha Padakandla said...

just awesome!!!!
very well written

the first one really made me go awwwww!! soooooper...

cheers

Rajlakshmi said...

these are such valid points you have touched... and the last one made me wonder too... not everyone gets to marry the love of their life... then why marry for the sake marrying...
very thought provoking post :)

workhard said...

Very practical post and thoughts

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jingle bells said...

this post is really nice,
and is nice,I dunno how else to say,
but I felt that nice when I write it.

muthu said...

@ oRange* ---

hmhm.... yeah, a mojority og guys are like that.. but then not all are like that....

and yeah, bad gals rock as wife's & mothers....

& my argument is not with a few men but with the established thoughts of the majority of the society....

the general sense of public morality....

muthu said...

@ venus66 ---

I never get offended for expressing your opinions....

& yeah, you are absolutely right....

lovely marriages aren't abt sex...


they are about love.. :)

muthu said...

venus66 ---

Belated Happy Diwali 2 you & your family....

My heart felt wishes.. :)

muthu said...

@ Renu ---

hippocrate modern gals too ---- do have their flavor...

anyways, not only gals but guys too can behave in a totally out of the world way before life hits and humbles them... the sooner you take the fall the better....


& no... I am not a regular drinker... I drink only once in a while meaning once in 2 months or so when I gather up with my friends....

& seriously ... thanks 4 your concern.. 4 a sec there.. I felt like going through my mother's advice.. :)


& finally it is just that I personally have been a witness of too many arranged marriages that have gone romantically stale ....

I never want my marriage to go like that... :)

muthu said...

@ Inty swetha ---

Gal... I don't really know, whether I will have a happy life but at least I can guarantee an interesting life.. :P

muthu said...

@ Swetha Padakandla --

thanks a lot 4 the compliments dude...

cheers.. :)

muthu said...

Rajlakshmi --

I think people get married so that -- they would not be termed black sheep in a society that loves name calling....

Dont you think so??

muthu said...

@ workhard --

welcome 2 my page & thanks 4 the compliments man.. :)

muthu said...

jingle bells ---

& I am happy, I had the privilege to make you feel nice...

welcome to my space.. :)

Renu said...

sorry Muthu, if I came across as advising, but I was just citing the reason of feeling that drinking is not good:)..your post is instigating me to write one on the topic.my views:)

muthu said...

@ Renu --

Hey, You told me what you felt...

So, I just took your words as that of one who has seen life more than me...

So no offense taken & no offense meant...

& I am browsing from net cafe nowadays & so am not able to do blog hopping.. So will read your post as soon as I get home...

Until then..

Cheers..

(and hey Difference in opinions is what makes blogging interesting. Right?? :) )

Renu said...

so true..I am heaving a sigh of relief, because I dont want to look like a person who advises all the time:) as I know today nobody likes that.

I like discussion and difference of opinions on all topics, because thats what interests me in blogging:)

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