Of a random lot of people we get to talk to and of the chaos of conversations in our daily lives, a few do stay with us. Having it's own sense of sense of humor and satire, even a mild bit of romanticism included, this is a summation of a few interesting conversations that I had with the guys I met over here in Hyderabad.
Of girls and future partners-
Deepak - "I want a nice cultured gal. A girl who hasn't been introduced yet to the fast life style of the modern society, preferably a village girl. Perhaps a bit cute and bubbly. Imagine all the fun, I will have taking her to all new places, looking into her eyes when they go wide with awe as she looks at all the new things to which she hasn't been introduced to in life."
"Ahh... It will be a total blast. I want my marriage life to be an exploration for her. May be, I will convert her into a village girl into a modern girl."
He paused. Took a deep breath taking in the bliss of his dream. After a second or two of silent reminiscence, he turned & looked at me.
"What about you? What kind of girl, you want?"
"hmhm, I want a modern girl. Someone who knows about everything. Someone knowledgeable and yeah, She should have a great smile"
"A modern girl" Deepak retorted.
"Yeah, Perhaps someone who has already been in a relationship..."
"What" His voice punched me back.
"Yeah, someone who has already been in a relationship. Someone who knows the value of what it is to be in a relationship. Someone who knows that relationships are more than sharing SMSes and flirting. Someone who can be mature when I get silly, Someone who can see me beyond all the facade of hormones. Someone who knows, what it is to be heartbroken. Someone to share life with."
"But, in that case, you won't be the first love for that girl, Muthu. They wont be fresh for you." Deepak looked at me questioningly.
I calmly answered back - "That's OK. I never said that I am fresh either."
The snap-
Of Morality as a life issue-
Harish- So you drink?
"Yeah, Occasionally & when I do so, I prefer vodka."
Harish did not reply anything back. He just sat there looking at me with a mild smile.
"What da?? Do you think that drinking is that bad?" I asked him.
He shrugged. "Of course, It's bad. Right?"
After a second of silent thought I replied- "Depends on how you look at it..."
"Really, & what do you mean by that?"
"Well, lets say, you are a guy who always has stood for what you think is good. Righteous. Always living your life by the norms of the society. So you get a good job, get married to a good girl, create a good family, leave a good legacy behind. In the end, what do you think you have achieved. You have achieved nothing. You have just followed the road that was taken & still being taken by countless Indians, who live their lives not for what they desire but for what the society desires out of them."
"People will say - Accept today's pain for tomorrow's happiness. That's the most silly piece of advice anybody can give you. You can never enjoy anything that you did not love doing. It's no different from school education, we study because we are told that's what everybody does. A bunch of sheep following another bunch of sheep. So, you work hard to get accepted by the society, what next. After you have achieved, the so called public acceptance, what are you going to do? Is your life that all... Trying to gain the approval of someone doesn't even have a face to be identified with."
"I live life the way I love it. Maybe, it's not in accordance with the morality that's usually defined. But I do not disturb anybody. I just want to live life for me, do things that I rejoice, Be happy for what I am. I wont be appreciated for that after my death. But then by my death, I would have millions of cherished memories. So what people are going to say about me, now or ever- doesn't really matter, Does it??"
"& anyways only when you love what you are doing, the spectacular best in you comes out... Right??" I challenged him with a questioning smile.
"You are dangerous guy da. I should try stay away from you" He replied back.
"Really!!" I laughed. "Why??"
"You almost had me convinced there.."
Of Love & Marriage --
Mukesh- "What about you da... love marriage or arranged marriage."
"Hopefully, Love marriage da." I replied.
"Really, do you have a girl friend now"
"Nope"
"Then...."
"Well, I think, I will fall in love in the near future."
"What if, you never fall in love da"
"That probably wont happen...."
"I only asked, what if??"
"Then probably, I wont marry...."
"What?? Really" He asked me incredulously.
"yeah, a marriage for the sake of marriage is a waste of everything da.."
After a second of thought, he asked me back-
"Then what about your sex life da??"
And for once I did not have a wise retort to answer him back. I looked at him blankly for a moment before changing the topic with a mild joke. But then, It did make me wonder- Do people really get married so that they can have legalised sex.
Author's note-
This post is not an attempt to criticize anyone's point of view but I wrote it, so as to bring the variety of opinions that people can have with regard to everything and anything in life.
